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Naturally Honest

Is anyone else shocked about David Letterman’s revelation last night on The Late Show? I’m really only half shocked and even that is more from the surprise that women actually slept with him. As Dave pointed out, “Would it be embarrassing if it were made public? Perhaps it would, especially for the women.” He made light of it but that’s what he does. In truth, it really sounds like a more serious situation that Dave has been dealing with behind the scenes.

I’m not going to spend any time here judging his actions. That’s not my desire or reason for bringing this topic up. I bring it up because it made me wonder if Dave would have come clean had an extortionist not threatened to out him.

We all have skeletons lingering in our closets (and some are better left there), but if we’re not being honest with ourselves are we able to be honest with others? I think it’s safe to assume that even the best of us have made mistakes and chose to cover it up in order to save a career, a relationship, or a reputation.

Many attribute the adage “Honesty is the best policy” to Benjamin Franklin. In truth, its origin’s actually date back to the sixteenth century from Archbishop Whatley of Dublin who completed the thought with, “…but he who is governed by the maxim is not an honest man.” It really changes the whole meaning doesn’t it?

You shouldn’t feel forced to tell the truth. It should be a natural inclination to be honest and if it’s not then you have some work to do. I know I sure do.

How can we learn to be more naturally honest with ourselves and others?





What’s In a Name?

Names are important.  They are an intrinsic component to our identity. It used to be important that the meaning behind a name be as well thought out as the name itself, but our American culture doesn’t invest heavily in that tradition. We seem to be more focused on how unique a name is more than what it means. Just do a search for “unique baby names” and see what kind of bizarre variations come up. Reminds me of musician Frank Zappa who famously named his daughter Moon Unit and his son Dweezil.

In Native American culture it was often the responsibility of an Elder to choose the name of a baby, but only after he/she had been in their physical form long enough that the spirit world could not call it back. They would give the newborn nicknames until the true name was decided. Sometimes the name was revealed to the Elder in a dream or based on the personality or characteristics of the child. It was a very personal mark of identification and once the name was chosen it held considerable meaning.

Some countries have adopted naming laws that define a legal name. In 1991, a Swedish couple refused to give their newborn baby a legal name as way of protesting one such naming law. Five years later they were fined for leaving their child legally nameless and chose to submit the name Brfxxccxxmnpcccclllmmnprxvclmnckssqlbb11116 to serve not so much as a compromise but as an “in your face” to the Swedish government. How they decided on that name is unknown but I’d like to think the father pounded his fist on the keyboard upon receiving the fine and thus the name was created. Or not.

But what’s in a name? It’s obviously more than a moniker used to address an individual. There’s an incredibly significant connection between a person’s name and the person themselves. Everything that defines us as a person is directly associated with our names. When we achieve great things it’s not our social security number or fingerprints that are acknowledged. Or on the flipside, when we totally screw things up, it’s not our dental records or DNA that are subjected to the consequences (well, hopefully not). It’s our names.

No matter how we acquire it or what the meaning behind it is, our reputation is synonymous with our name and follow us throughout our lives. This past week I was listening to a program on NPR that was discussing how social networking is negatively impacting legal proceedings in court. In one of the examples mentioned, a jury member had Googled the name of the defendant and found disparaging information about him. Though unrelated to the details of the trial it had added a damning facet to his character for this juror and her vote was singularly polarized to the rest of the jury’s vote of not guilty. She was outvoted but he had built up a bad reputation and a simple search of his name on the internet revealed it.

If you’re like me you will be Googling your name to see what results come up. Mine looks pretty good I guess. I’d like to think I’m a pretty decent guy. Nerds usually are.

Knowing how important your name is should encourage you to think about your actions and how they could have lasting effects on your reputation. I know from now on it will be a huge consideration in my decision making process.





Tennis Tantrum

What was she thinking?This weekend my wife and I watched a lot of US Open coverage on the boob tube. Saturday night’s match between Serena Williams and Kim Clijsters was and will remain an unfortunate highlight of the tournament; not to mention a defining moment in Serena Williams’ career. Simply put, the behavior she displayed was nothing short of detrimental. Not just for her game, but for her reputation, her opponent, and the sport.

In the first set she received a code violation for racket abuse, which is a nice way of saying she lost her temper and broke her racket. Her game was off, she was losing, and it was getting to her emotionally. Towards the end of the game a foot foul was called by a line judge. There’s some debate as to whether the foot foul was a bad call but that’s insignificant. Nothing could excuse what happened next. Serena approached the line judge, waving her racket menacingly, and then gave her a verbal beat down to rival John McEnroe. I wasn’t sure what was said at first but they eventually replayed it with the sound focused and amplified. I was appalled. She had threatened the line judge with physical assault, complete with F-bombs. I won’t get any further into the nitty gritty of the exchange but Fox Sports has a pretty good run down of what happened and what was said (including the video) on their website under the heading Game, threat and match: Serena Williams passes point of no return.

The point I want to make is that whether we are public sports figures or regular shmoes we don’t have any excuse for being jerks. My dad always told my brother and me that two wrongs don’t make a right. It stuck with me and I try to live by it. Our actions and words are non-refundable. Once they’re let loose the ripple effect is fast on the move and sometimes the impact runs deep.

Who knows what negative effects will occur as a result of Serena’s actions. In the end she’ll be asking herself, “Was it worth it?” The answer is obviously no. Anytime you vilify someone else for your own benefit you are asking for trouble; especially when it’s being televised on a global scale. She’s been a role model, an example of integrity and good sportsmanship, for years. Those brief few moments could ruin all of that hard work.

Is it worth it? Never.

I’d love to know what your opinion on this story is. Be sure to comment below.





Short Yellow Lights, Big Profit

[tweetmeme]About a month ago I was in downtown Nashville to meet a friend for lunch. I came up to an intersection as the light was changing but it made sense to go ahead and roll through the yellow light rather than stomping on the break and skidding to a halt. The light changed to red before I was even through the intersection though and I remember thinking, “That light was yellow for barely two seconds. That must have been a mistake.”

I ran across a blog article on Digg this morning that made me realize it wasn’t a mistake and that it was most likely done for profit. Originally, this was found on Motorist.org but the site seems to be down as of this morning so I’ll refer you to a cached copy on Google’s server here.

The article listed 6 cities in the United States that were found to have shortened the duration of the yellow light as a means to collect more money from traffic violations. Both Nashville and Chattanooga were on this list.

Some local governments have ignored the safety benefit of increasing the yellow light time and decided to install red-light cameras, shorten the yellow light duration, and collect the profits instead.”

Source: 6 Cities That Were Caught Shortening Yellow Light Times For Profit (motorist.org, 3/26/2008)


In Nashville, the situation wasn’t limited to red-light cameras, as was my experience. I was apparently one of the lucky ones who managed to drive through a so-called “ticket trap” without getting caught.

In 2006, Nashville resident Joe Savage obtained the data on every red light running ticket issued on Broadway Street since 2000. He said that yellow lights are longer at intersections along Broadway until the areas where police are issuing tickets. At those locations, Savage clocked the yellow signal time at less than 3 seconds, in violation of both state law and federal regulations. A local newspaper, The Nashville Scene, then confirmed his findings.

Source:

Yellow Light Blues (Nashville Scene, 5/11/2006)


Our tax payer funded law enforcement – breaking laws to profit further from the taxpayers. Awesome.

These articles are a bit dated but the problem still seems to exist and may possibly be growing. I’d be interested in hearing some feedback. Maybe you’re one of the unlucky ones who got caught. I’d love to hear your story so please be sure to comment.

UPDATE: I was nosing around some more on motorist.org and found this article here: http://www.motorists.org/blog/short-yellow-light-times-no-longer-going-unnoticed, which was written in April 2009. There is also a campaign against short yellow lights (no, really!) at http://www.shortyellowlights.com. Pretty interesting stuff. Check it out.





Human Trafficking in the USA

This is one of those must read blog posts, folks. What I’m about to tell you is such an important topic and it needs so much more awareness than what it’s receiving. Up until this morning I was completely unaware of a growing problem in the United States that is second in size and profit only to the drug trade, and quickly gaining ground for the number one position. My good friend, Brian Terry, called me today to tell me about a new project his band, 3 Minutes to Live, is working on. What he told me absolutely revolted me into near shock.

Current figures say that there are more than 27 million slaves in the world today. More than at the height of the Trans-Atlantic slave trade! Most of these are children between the ages of 11-17 who are sold into sex trafficking. Could you imagine your own child being taken from you and sold off into a life of drugs, sex, and abuse? I visited www.notforsalecampaign.org and found story after story of young children being sold into slavery for sex. Not just in other countries, but right here under our noses in the United States! Last year alone, the sex slave industry profited $32 billion! That’s more than Starbucks, Google, and Nike COMBINED!

Brian got a hold of the book Not For Sale and read it. After learning about this horrible problem he felt a strong desire to help this organization in any way possible. As a musician he naturally turned to songwriting. After telling the rest of the band members about this growing epidemic and his conviction to do something they were more than eager to join him. Currently they are working on recording a song called Stolen to raise awareness. Their hoping to make it available for download and on CD and shoot a music video. 100% of the proceeds from the sale of this song will go directly to the Not For Sale organization.

They really need our help to make this project happen. They need videographers, video and sound editors, music video extras, and, most importantly, they need voices; people who are willing to speak out and create awareness. They are funding this project out of their own pockets so please volunteer your time and services if you can. If you have are able to contribute to this project please let me know so I can get you in contact with Brian.

You can visit 3 Minutes to Live’s MySpace profile for more information on the band and news related to the project. http://www.myspace.com/3minutestolive